6 Ways to make you feel good (when the going gets tough)

Our journey to the lost destination is never a smooth ride to say the least. It could be a bad day at work, an argument with a friend, relationship problems ... the list goes on.
Life smacks us hard when we least expect it. How well equipped are we to handle such incidents?

While we have friends and family to get us through these periods, it requires a fair amount of effort on our part as well. So what can you do ?

#1. Pamper yourself
Have you ever noticed that pampering your self goes a long way towards making you feel good? For some people, its going shopping, working on the car, playing the guitar, taking a long bubble bath, exercising, eating ice cream .....
What makes you feel comforted?

#2. Remember good times
When we go through a rough patch, it is the bad memories that keep hunting us. Take a stroll down memory lane (use a photo album if you have to!) and remember the good old days when life was less weary.

#3. There is no point in asking yourself 'Why'
Have you been running round in circles in your mind, wondering why. Why Me, why , oh why. True, it's hard not to.

I think only God has the answers to all why questions. In the meantime, you can ask a different question. 'What did I learn?'

#4. Help someone
Happiness is a by product of an effort to make someone else happy.

Helping someone will make you feel needed. I'm sure whoever it is, will be appreciative of your effort. It will also help, to keep you occupied.

#5. Remember the less fortunate
A few months ago, I used to visit a neurology ward twice a day, everyday for nearly three weeks. Walking through the beds on either side made me feel very lucky. Mainly because, I was the visitor not the patient! Most of the patients warded, couldn't walk and/or talk. Additionally, some even had eyesight problems.

Anyway, that was a couple of months back when my father underwent brain surgery. I still think about some patients, which I came to know within that time. I wonder what their fate at the moment is.

Every time I feel down, I do my best to recall my time at the ward. It reminds me, there are others, who are in a lot worse position, than I am.

#6 Tough times don't last, but tough people do
'Time heals all wounds' is a popular advice. Have you ever felt like slapping anyone
who gave this advice? I am sure they all mean well. Somehow, when we have sunk real deep, its difficult to come to terms, that one day it will be alright. Even though at the time you dont admit it or even consider the possibility, from life experiences I can say that it is true. I bet if you were to recap your past, you can too! One day at a time, takes us to happy land, eventually.
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Lisa said...

Recently, I have found that there are many things in life that I can't control, no matter how hard I try. I'm starting to learn, slowly but surely, that when I'm confused, it's time to put things into God's hands. It gives me peace of mind. I realize that this way of handling things does not fit into everyone's life, but it works for me.

Take good care,

Enhance Life said...

Yes true Lisa. There are many things in life that we can't control. I guess in a way that's what makes life interesting or rather keep the momentum going :-)

Faith in religion and God goes a long way too.

Misty said...

Thanks for stopping at my site and introducing yourself.

As for your blog topic, I do exercise all of those methods and I've definitely only moved forward after hitting any obstacles.

I would also suggest repairing what you do have control over. I find that when life gets askew, it is usually at a time that we are overwhelmed with a load of things that need to be done. Make a list of all those "to do's" and prioritize them, then start working on them, which will ultimately alleviate additional stress.

Troy Worman said...

Excellent post. I particularly like no. 4 -- help someone. You mentioned faith in God in your comments. In the Bible, I believe there is significant space given to lifting up the less fortunate.

Thijs said...

I like this quote by Reginald B. Mansell: A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities;
an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties.

It kinda fits with point 4. I know it can be hard when things run bad, but if you manage to see the challanges instead of the difficulties I think it could make you feel much better!


Anonymous said...

I find it very difficult to get in the habit of doing all the steps that I get from friends and family to be happy. Life should be fun and exciting so why get to the point where you can't stand it? Get yourself out there and have fun!

Anonymous said...

I find it hard to get in the habit of all the steps my friends and family send me. Life should be fun and exciting so why get to the point where you can't stand it? Get yourself out there and have fun!

JF said...

Life should be fun and exiting so why get to the point where you can't stand it?
Get yourself out there and have fun

P.S.I have trouble getting in to those habits.

Kaze said...

I like the advice. My favorite is #6 - tough times don't last. Another belief of mine is that everything happens for a reason. When something negative happens, I find that I always gain something positive in return, though it may not be right away. It's all about perspectives!


Anonymous said...

I like this post. It makes me feel that there will be brighter days ahead.

There's still one thing I cannot change even though I've tried. Recently I left my high paying fabulous job as an air hostess so that I could join another airline with my boyfriend. I came back to my country and we spent a lovely one month together after missing out on a year together. He then got accepted at the airline while I awaited my interview results, which eventually came back negatively. So I feel like I'm stuck here, jobless, while he's living my fabulous dream. What's worse is that I make him feel like crap about it, everytime he chats to me online, I blame him for things, treat him badly and be negative. By the end of that day I feel really bad for doing it, but by the next day, my spirits are high and I'm full of happiness. Is this a form of emotional abuse? I make him feel bad so that I can feel good?

greatdiamondsforless said...

I think it is important to help people, which also makes you feel good.

Anonymous said...

I have been through some pretty tough times, a solo mum of six, attending university with no money except a government benefit, a part time job , yes the tough times dont last. Through it all I have learnt so much about myself and the resources I never knew I had.

Anonymous said...

today I was feeling bad about somethings and then I remembered that my friend a while ago had sent me this message about people coming into your life for a reason, a season or lifetime. And believe me reading that link made me feel better.When one puts things in God's hands one must believe that He means well.That He cares for us.

Anonymous said...

The article really pushed up my mood & the posts after made me smile.. Thanks for everyone who contributed on this page. You have no clue how much this person on the other side of the world probably, is happy I have you all there !

Nirojan Donald said...

On point #6, its true that the best medicine in the whole world is nothing but the time, every minute passes by, drop by drop like from the saline bottle and you slowly forget of the bad memories/things and getting back on your feet again.

Shamelle, have you ever wondered the difference of; Living for Others vs. Living by Others? which is easy you think? don't say its' both... :)

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