Not Tonight Dear, I Have A Modem!

The headline must have raised a few eyebrows for sure. It is a tagline from a famous movie! Guess!
finding a connected life offlineAs funny as it may be, this might be actually happening to you. It may be not the exact “situation”, but I find that we spend more time on the internet and neglect the things and people that matter the most to us.

Imagine this; you take your remaining leave to chill at home; Or may be you go on vacation to get away from it all. Yet, you still keep writing your blog, and staying up to date on what’s happening in the blogospehere. I know a blogger, who is blogging while he is on his honeymoon! (I wonder what his new wife thinks about it.) But hey, it’s a personal choice and I can’t dictate a "right" or "wrong".

Wherever we go, there is always the tendency to stay connected. You get online, check mail, chat, read news etc… Before you know it, your day is over. You think to yourself... "my.... time flies, even when I am on holiday". Has that happened to you?

Are you an internet addict?

I am not qualified to give a verdict on this. However, here are a few questions that I would like you to think about.
Do you
  • find yourself unable to stop connecting to the internet even when you know there are consequences?

  • Have you repeatedly made unsuccessful efforts to control, cut back, or stop Internet use?

  • Prefer to use online messenger, email and other forms of online communication rather than face-to-face interaction when the latter is more appropriate?

  • find it impossible to relax without constantly connecting to the internet?

  • pay more attention to the latest “internet news” than what is happening in real life?

  • feel the internet is a more powerful draw than spending time with your friends and family?
If those points apply to you, keep reading I have some suggestion to help you.

Reasons why internet is so attractive

I don’t think any of us intentionally neglect the “offline life”. Here are a few reasons why it might happen.

#1.Getting lost in information (You don’t feel the time pass by)
When I get caught up in a subject that interests me, I keeping digging for more information. I suppose, with the internet there is no boundary on the information I can gather. The more time spent reading and gathering, the more knowledgeable you are on a certain matter.
Even if you don’t have anything specific in mind you can start reading at one place and end up at something totally different. There are so many interesting things on the internet!

#2. Curiosity
At a recent dinner, one of my friends embarrassingly admitted that she "googled" all her friends with the hope of finding some "interesting bits".

#3. You feel you can “get things done” when you are online
For example, I sit at the computer thinking that I am going to write a blog post. Then in order to write the post, I read related articles and blog posts. After sometime, I realize that all I have been doing is reading and not written a word for the blog post.

#4. Internet is a nice place to escape from your daily miseries
When you get on the internet, you don’t have to think that much about “who you are”. You can forget about your problems and responsibilities

Finding a connect life offline

internet addiction#1. Try to find offline activities that fill up your time
It may be in the form of playing tennis with a friend, watching a movie or learning a new music instrument. See whether you can cook something from scratch without burning down the kitchen! Basically, come up with things that you wanted to do all along but never had the time.
You can always, talk to your loved ones. I mean talk no chat ;-). Call them up and if they can spare the time.. meet up.

#2. Keep away from the computer
If you are at home, go to the park with your kids, go grocery shopping or eat out etc. Taking some time away, can help.

#3. Make a schedule
If you are one of those people who eternally keep checking email, write down the times, you would like to check email. Until then, don’t touch that button. Also, disable email alerts so you won’t be tempted to read it at that very moment.

#4. Have a clear goal
Before you get on the internet, give your self a deadline. “I will finish whatever, reading I have before 9 p.m”. If you are unable to meet your deadline though, it’s a totally different story.

#5. Remove the source
Now, please don’t strangle me for saying this but, if possible discontinue your home internet connect for a while and see how it goes. (Assuming you are not working from home)

#6. What are you trying to escape from
Finally, if there is a special reason why you are spending your time on the internet, you need to figure out what it is. Spending time on the internet is only going to "postpone" or aggravate your “real” problem.

Does this post apply to you? Do you have related life experiences to share?

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Jay, writer said...

There was a time a few years book that one would find me still online after five hours. I had gotten addicted to reading stories online and so wouldn't budge from my seat until my eyes threatened to dry up unless I slept. And the first thing I'd do when I wake is to turn the computer on.

Enhance Life said...

Hi Jay,
"the first thing I'd do when I wake is to turn the computer on", I am also guilty on this count. :-)

How did you out grow it?


Andrea said...

Guilty.......At least I admit I am guilty.

Enhance Life said...

Hi Andrea,
At least its a start :-0)

JEMi | Tips for Life, Love, You said...


this post makes me feel like I'm being confronted for my habits and now I am uncomfortable lol

it DOES make me feel productive even during times that it is anything but

I..will go google ways to make me feel better about this


excellent piece

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