Using Humor As A Social Lubricant!

I just noticed that my recent posts at Enhance Life have been a bit heavy on the mind. So, today when I sat down to write a post, I made a pledge to steer clear of such genre.

After toying with several ideas, I decided to write about one characteristic I really admire in people; a sense of humor.

“If a man insisted always on being serious, and never allowed himself a bit of fun and relaxation, he would go mad or become unstable, without knowing it” ~Herodotus
We may not all be born comedians, but most people are naturally humorous. Some people effortlessly see humor in their surrounding, while others may not have such an easy flair for noticing the lighter side of things.

A Sense Of Humor Can Truly Save The Day

  • Pulling your hair out…screaming profanities…banging your head against the wall. These are all tempting ways to deal with the everyday situations that drive us crazy. Regardless of what brand of humor appeals to you, the ability to find humor in stressful or uncomfortable situations can provide important benefits to your psychological and physical well-being.

  • Humor enhances our ability to connect with others. Sometimes, it can increase trust and likability.

  • Humor can defuse negative emotions such as anger and guilt, spark
    enthusiasm, and inspire motivation.

  • At some point, we’ve all come across a tight-jawed sourpuss who takes everything with deathly seriousness and never laughs at anything. Expressing humor can reduce the inhibitions and increase the self-confidence of individuals who are otherwise shy and introverted by nature.

  • Humor helps us cope, conquer, and carry on. It actually makes us measurably tougher!
If you can laugh at it, you can survive it ~Bill Cosby

Humor: General Guidelines You Should Follow

There aren’t definite rules of what’s funny and what isn’t. It’s really a matter of personal taste. However, use humor with care by being mindful of the following.

1. Play Nice. Commiserate, don’t humiliate. Ensure that the person is enjoying your attempts at humor. Keep in mind that “inside jokes” can sometimes make people feel excluded.

2. Timing is everything. Humor doesn’t work in every situation. It can detract from a serious discussion. On the other hand, it can ease tensions when things get too serious. Also, don't use humor when someone else is suffering a serious crisis, or when you are attending a somber event, such as a funeral etc.

3. Don’t overuse humor. At times, there is a need to seriously confront other people or our own pain. Don’t mask the pain and don’t use humor as an excuse for not confronting others when necessary.

4. Find your own style. Some people are spontaneous and outgoing. Others are low key, watchful, and bemused. Some tell jokes or make others laugh in other ways.

Much of humor depends upon shared experiences.. seeing things the same way. It relies on your point of view, your beliefs on life, your way of thinking.

Related posts

Enjoy the Post? Please bookmark it and share it with others.

Del.icio.usDiggReddit Stumble Using Humor As A Social Lubricant! @EnhanceLife Tweet this!


twigs said...

I know exactly what you mean, I too tend to drift towards the funnier side in life when i write. Some people tell me that my writing is negative and its wrong. I know sometimes you have to say the write thing but the fact is the wrong thing is a lot funnier.

take care.

Shamelle said...

@twigs: Just visited your blog and you definitely have a unique style of writing! It's enjoyable to read and keeps the reader glued!

Simple Sapien said...


I totally agree that humor can have a lot of power. It can really connect a group of people together. I feel the most alive and human when I am laughing. My problem is that I tend to lose my sense of humor sometimes when I am alone. We need to keep it around even when we are alone!

- Jack Rugile
Simple Sapien

Marie said...

Laughter is truly the best medicine. Sometimes the "harder" side of life seems to take over and it is hard to get out from underneath the load, but one person making us laugh can make all the difference in the world.

Lance said...

Great reminder Shamelle on the importance of humor in our lives (and when it's appropriate). I think I do a good job of using humor, and laughing at myself - but sometimes I DO take things too seriously (life's too short, after all) - so I'll take this reminder as just that - laugh and have fun a little more...

rummuser said...

"Fun, frivolity, merriment, are the things essential to the normal mind, as rain is necessary to the flowers. There is always something to laugh about every day, even if it is only about yourself.." - Fred Van Amburgh

MeghnaK said...

A wonderful post, Shamelle.....very nicely written and easy to understand....I learn every time I visit :)

I totally agree....and good sense of humor can brighten ones personality!

KW said...

Great post as usual. Humor is healthy.

Post a Comment

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...

Copyright 2008 All rights reserved.

Original template from 2008