5 Must-Have Persuasion Fundamentals To Get Your Own Way

Persuasion Fundamentals
You have being trying to get your own way since you were a baby. Crying, smiling, banging your hands on the table.. primitive to be sure- but effective.

Fast forward several years…
Wanting to get your way may have others define you as persistent, stubborn, hardheaded, or some other form of being tenacious. But the bottom line of other’s perception is of you is the way, the manner by which, you choose to try to get your way.

1. Explaining What, why, and how

People start out skeptical. They want to know; what is this? Why will this work? Why do you want me to do this? Why are you asking me? What are you trying to accomplish? What will this mean to me? How will this affect me? How do I win?

Your ability to plausibly explain goes a long way towards getting your way.

2. Explaining what’s in for them

People are more likely to be persuaded if they see how they win as a result of following your lead or seeing it your way.

3. Your sincerity

Your conviction is part of their “buy-in-false” sincerity eventually shows.. and smells

4. Your believability

Are you making statements that others can relate to? That others find conceivable? Conceivable leads to believable.

5. Your questioning skills

This is one of your major keys to persuasion and getting your way. Not telling- asking, are you asking questions that relate to the other person? Questions about them, that make them stop and think, and respond in terms of you? Powerful persuasion starts with powerful questions. Ask their opinion. Solicit their expertise. Ask about their experience.

6. Your reputation precedes you

Reputation is so powerful, it can make getting your way an automatic yes if yours is exceptional or an automatic no if yours is “iffy”

No one single item from this list will complete the process. The more you master each of them, the more persuasive you’ll become, and the more you will get your way.

You will not get your way all the time. However, by polishing your skills, deepening your belief and developing a passion for what you want, you will get your way more often.

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6 comments:

Justin- AlittleBetter.net said...

Great job putting these together! I know from experience that sincerity goes a long way. I'd really like to see some articles on how to improve each of these areas. Like how do you get good at questions? How do you build that reputation?

Jonathan Figaro said...

Briliant Post. If you make the person believe your story they tend to be very cooperative. Great post!

Shamelle said...

@Justin: In my own life, I tend to be more persuaded if I know for sure that the other person's intent is noble.

You've just given me some post ideas for the future. Stay tuned.. :-)

@Jonathan: Sometimes, there are people who don't believe in what they are trying to persuade that really becomes transparent. So it is also important that if we are trying to convince someone, that we also believe in it.

suZen said...

Fabulous points in this blog! You could blog more about each one of these as Justin suggested. Thank you for these thoughts - very powerful!

Jonathan Figaro said...

Very well put! You right we must believe what we are trying to enforce!

Shamelle said...

@SuZen: Yes, I have already added some post ideas for my to-write list, based on the above points.

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