Comments on Enhance Life: Do You Belong?

I have found one of the worst places where I have ...

2011-09-06T18:38:09.850+05:00

I have found one of the worst places where I have never belonged both as a child and a parent is the school playground. I always went in smiling, but that has long since faded away, now it's head down and do the twice daily chore.

Hello Shamelle, I found out your blog on motivate ...

2009-08-02T00:26:23.727+06:00

Hello Shamelle,
I found out your blog on motivate thyself. I loved this post. I have always emphasized on being ones' self but in a positive manner though(I always add that clause lol!!!). I will bookmark this site and subscribe to it.

Have a lovely dayo

It's one of the worst feelings. I try to engag...

2009-07-31T11:39:56.693+06:00

It's one of the worst feelings. I try to engage with people, but, if it doesn't work I'll stay to myself or talk with people outside the group.

Shamelle, This is my first visit to your site an...

2009-07-30T02:48:18.812+06:00

Shamelle,

This is my first visit to your site and you wrote about a tough subject for me. I often feel I don't belong, especially in group situations.

I usually have an inner talk with myself to remind me that this feeling of not belonging is an echo of my past; not part of my present. This will often help me. Intesting post. Thanks:~)

I dont think there was ever a time in my life wher...

2009-07-29T10:44:32.780+06:00

I dont think there was ever a time in my life where I belonged. And now, as an adult (30) I have come to terms with it and embraced my differences.

Thanks for this post. One thing I find is that, w...

2009-07-29T04:36:13.425+06:00

Thanks for this post. One thing I find is that, when I'm getting the sense that I "don't belong," it's actually a physical sensation in the body -- maybe a sense of hollowness in my stomach, for instance. Focusing on that sensation can actually help it to dissipate, I've found.

@Peter: A warm welcome to EnhanceLife! Hope you co...

2009-07-24T10:16:04.136+06:00

@Peter: A warm welcome to EnhanceLife! Hope you continue to visit and contribute to the discussions.
Sure, feel free to pass it on.. :-0)

This is my first read of your site and I'm gla...

2009-07-24T08:32:44.207+06:00

This is my first read of your site and I'm glad I found it. It's amazing how much of ourselves we're willing to compromise for the sake of belonging. I'm thrilled that you're championing this position...that you already are good enough and that you need not compromise who you are because who you are is already awesome. This is an important post...OK if I pass this on?

@positively present: true, its a topic that's ...

2009-07-23T09:51:00.316+06:00

@positively present: true, its a topic that's rarely talked about. I wouldn't have written about it myself if not for the conversation I had with my friend.

@psychologyofsuccess: sometimes, its less painful to not get too attached. Again, one needs to way the pros and cons..

Great questions! As a child I was part of an Army ...

2009-07-23T01:32:19.304+06:00

Great questions! As a child I was part of an Army family. I also served for a few years as a young adult. It was not until I was in my late 20s that I realized that I was good at gaining admittance to groups and blending in with the crowd but I very rarely established deep relationships.

Sometimes we would move and I wouldn't even say goodbye. I used it as a coping mechanism to avoid sad departures. Now, I know that it was wrong but once I recognized it I was able to address it.

What a great post on the topic of belonging? I thi...

2009-07-22T22:49:28.547+06:00

What a great post on the topic of belonging? I think this is something most people think about (whether they realize it or not) and you've done such a great job of addressing the topic here. Thanks for this great post!